Over the course of 4 years my wife and I have made a ton of rookie parent mistakes. The top ones I can think of off the top of my head include:
- Thinking your child will conform to your sleep schedule.
- Taking a long road trip with an infant
- Trying to reason with a toddler
As we continue on this “journey” of ours we’ve come to the realization that we will be making plenty more rookie parents mistakes. In fact the latest one happened this past Sunday.
We’ve been working diligently trying to get our kids to share with each other. But getting a 3 year old and an 18 month old to share without any whining, shouting, or crying is damn near impossible. Just the other day they wanted some pineapples so without even thinking I cut up some pineapples, put them in one bowl, then handed it to them while they watched cartoons. I made the stupid mistake of thinking I could wash the dishes in peace while we all enjoy 10-15 minutes of quiet time…WRONG!
“DADDY!!!!! He’s not sharing with me!”
So long story short every Sunday after church we all go to Donut Land, otherwise known as Dunkin Donuts. As I’m standing in line I make the concious decision to ask both of our children what donut they want. My daughter chooses a Chocolate Marble, my son a traditional glazed, and we get jelly donuts. Crisis averted, I’m patting myself on the back all the way home, the car ride is good, we talk about having a donut picnic on our living room floor as soon as we get home. It’s going to be great!
Well we get home and we all sit down for our donuts, everyone has their donut in hand ready to eat. THEN, I see my son look down at his donut, look at my daughter’s, then takes a look at his again…. My wife and I lock eyes in utter fear.
Then all hell breaks loose.
My son stands up, runs across the blanket and tries to take my daugthers donut. She knows and understands he doesn’t quite understand how to act but do you know any 3 year old who is going to passively let go of a donut? I certainly don’t, she pushes him back but not before he rips her donut in half. She starts crying, then he starts screaming because we tell him no and take the donut away. Now what was suppose to be a nice peaceful family sit down ended up with one child in timeout and the other having a full blown tantrum. No easy day right?!
What is Our Rookie Parent Mistake?
Assuming that a 3 year old and a toddler have the ability to share on a consistent basis. Not only do my children now need their own of everything, I realized that now it needs to be the exact same or all hell is going to break loose. This applies to anything and it is the most ridiculous phenomenon I’ve ever witnessed. Somebody please tell me when this madness will stop!
Have you ever dealt with two screaming kids over the same item?